Compassion is the door you might be missing and preventing you from healing.
Imagine you are a baker. Everything requires a certain process for the bake to work out well. You put the ingredients together, knead the dough and let it rise. You put the bread in the oven and then take it out and it is ready. What would happen if you were to just leave the bread in the oven indefinitely?
What would you say to someone who wonders why they can’t bake bread, but then insists they can’t take the bread out of the oven — ever? While this may seem silly, many people leave the bread in the oven in terms of their own healing. In the case of healing, the “oven” is actually anger.
Processing emotions is common when healing. It’s especially important to process anger. The anger allows you to acknowledge something is wrong, and that you have unresolved trauma or fear. However most people get stuck in the ‘anger’ and it prevents them from moving on to the next phase of healing.
I used to binge-watch the vilest, most negative media. Afterward, I would become really angry at myself for poisoning my mind. However, I would be immersed in the anger for days and I would never progress in the healing. A good friend of mine pointed out that I was allowing myself to get stuck in the ‘anger’ phase and it was preventing me from healing. (She even went so…
