Condoning Versus Accepting

Okay, this is an important topic, once you get it it is going to help you heal or progress at light speed.

People commonly ask me why they need to “accept” things before healing. People also tell me they have issues with “accepting” things. Well there is an important reason for this, its because they are confusing “condoning” with “accepting”.

People commonly believe that if they “accept” they have been hurt, or if they “accept” they don’t love themselves then they condone it. That couldn’t be further from the truth.

Okay, imagine you are walking outside and you step on a nail. Now imagine that you refuse to acknowledge the nail is there because you are afraid of what it means. So basically you are walking around with a nail in your foot. However once you accept that its there, you can then remove it and heal.

But here is where most people get in trouble. They will experience trauma, negative emotions, anger, guilt, etc but then deny its there. They deny it is there because in their minds they believe its the only way to keep them “safe” or to block the pain out.

People deny things because they are afraid of what will happen if they accept it.

But this makes just as much sense as denying a nail is in your foot so you can keep it from hurting you.

It doesn’t work this way. You see denying something is in fact holding on to it. Think about what I said.